How Finding Your True Calling Can Help You Get Your Heart’s Desire

The Year 2022 is winding down. If you are like me, you are reflecting on the challenges and triumphs of the past year and planning for the year to come. Knowing who you truly are, and having a clear vision for yourself for the future, can help you successfully reach your goals for 2023.

The trick to selecting goals you are more likely to reach involves knowing your authentic self and establishing your true calling in the Universe. Sound too “woo woo” for you? It’s really not – it’s the real secret behind those who meet with success and those who struggle to reach the goals they set for themselves.

Why Should You Know Your True Calling?

Much research shows the benefits of being true to yourself and knowing your life purpose. The National Geographic Society wanted to know the secret of longevity in the five areas of the world where the average life expectancy was the highest or where there was the largest concentration of people in their 100s – places they called the Blue Zones. Of the nine common factors contributing to the longevity of the people in these Blue Zones, one was a sense of life purpose – which alone adds up to seven years to one’s life expectancy.

Having a sense of purpose that drives your life is so important that many corporations use the principles of Rick Warren’s The Purpose-Driven Life as guiding aspects of their professional development and training. Having goals and a life direction can yield not only personal satisfaction but a longer life and business success.

How to Discover Your True Calling

Your true life calling is “true” because it is consistent with your personal strengths and interests and how you benefit others. Discovering this authentic calling is as simple as identifying these strengths, passions, and contributions to society and looking for where they intersect.

In your journal, create a chart with three columns. Label each column with the following headers: My Strengths, My Interests, Ways I Benefit Others. Here’s what the beginning of mine looks like:

It’s important to try to write at least 10 items in each column, as the more you write, the closer you get to your “core” values. The first few items you jot down will be the obvious ones others might say about you. For example, I’m a teacher and school administrator, and I’m pursuing my doctoral degree, so it would make sense that I might have an interest in education and lesson design. But that might not be my core passion or true purpose for being here on earth. By continuing the lists further, I see the common thread of simply wanting to help, encourage and build up others and of helping them understand information that can make their lives better – not just in the field of education.

Putting Your True Calling to Work in 2023

This underlying “true calling” now becomes the basis for my online presence, my writing and blogging focus, and the theme of my new nail-care business. Not only does this help with “branding,” but staying true to my authentic self ensures that my efforts bring me joy. What brings you joy becomes fun and not painful, and you are more likely to accomplish it.

Based on this analysis, I chose the following goals (and blogging topics) for myself for 2023:

  • Faith: Develop and maintain a daily practice of study, prayer, meditation, and yoga;
  • Finance: Focus savings on graduate school expenses;
  • Family: Cook dinner at home at least four nights per week based on ingredients that we have on hand;
  • Foundation: Dedicate time each week to creating a home that is a peaceful oasis for our guests and us;
  • Fun: Build at least one fun family activity into each month’s events;
  • For Me: Create a mini-homestead in our outdoor space.

I’m particularly excited about this last goal, which (this year) will involve a big strawberry bed (for freezing and canning), a chicken coop, and a patio garden.

What is Your True Calling?

Using the above process, you can identify goals that help you become authentic. When you are authentic, no one can take your place – and you can best serve others. Not only are you more likely to reach your goals and benefit others when you answer your true calling, but you will also enjoy doing so because your chosen goals bring you pleasure.

What is YOUR true calling? How can you manifest this in 2023? Let us know in the comments below.

And may your 2023 be full of joy, goodness, and peace.

How a Flock of Blackbirds Can Change How You Feel About Your Life

I can always tell that the seasons are changing by the way the birds behave. The other day, while walking my dog in the yard, I saw the trees full of thousands of blackbirds. This has always been exciting to me – how they grow so bold when in such large numbers, how their calls fill the air with a raucous, yet beautiful, noise, how they lift off and resettle in hordes, wheeling across the sky as if connected by invisible cords.

Blackbirds, especially in large flocks, have often been considered bad portent, usually associated with death. In this post, we will see how the awesome sight of a flock of blackbirds means so much more than this.

What are Blackbirds?

The term “blackbird” is a generic term for any of several species of birds, most of which congregate in large flocks, often in mixed species groups. Each continent has its own assortment of types of blackbirds. Here, in New England, common grackles, red-winged blackbirds, crows, and non-native European starlings gather together in groups called murmurations, sometimes numbering in the millions, according to the Audubon Society.

Blackbird flock (c) 2012, rnd4.

Not all blackbird species ima murmuration are truly migratory. Migratory, partially migratory, and permanent residents alike, will gather together and move in unison to feeding areas, evening roosts, and fresh water. Once, when I lived in Ohio during graduate school, there was even an escaped common parakeet associated with a flock of blackbirds that used to feed in my backyard!

The Symbolism of a Blackbird Flock

Many lean on the raven’s symbolism in Edgar Allen Poe’s poem as a harbinger of death and foreboding. Jessica at Symbolism and Metaphor lists several meanings for the sudden visitation of a large group of blackbirds to where you work or live.

1. Sudden Changes

Like the change of seasons that causes the birds to congregate, a flock of blackbirds can mean a sudden transformation or change in your life – positively! As blackbirds are often seen as stepping easily through the veil between this world and the spirit realm, this flock can be seen as a show of spiritual support for you as you prepare for big changes.

2. Healing

As they can send a message of change from the spirit world, a flock of blackbirds can also convey the need to rest, relax, recuperate and recover. I almost always feel cheered by the awe-inspiring presence of thousands of birds around me – how could one not? If you see such a sight, ask yourself, “How am I feeling? Am I taking care of myself? Could I do better at this?”

3. Protection

One reason that blackbirds mass together is for mutual protection from predators. Many of us have seen small blackbirds attacking a hawk or eagle en masse. A flock of blackbirds can be a spiritual protection message for you and your loved ones. Look at your inner circle and notice those “angels” around you. Lean on them!

4. A Reminder that Life is Fragile

While a traditional interpretation of a flock of blackbirds is that of a dark omen of impending death, another view is a reminder that we need to be mindful and recognize the everyday blessings that often go unnoticed in the busyness of our lives. Rather than inciting fear and worry, let these amazing sights refocus your life on the joy of today.

5. Adaptability

Most blackbird species are highly adaptable and can prosper as easily in a city as they can in rural areas. A flock of blackbirds might be a glorious reminder that you need to be open to change and new experiences and that happiness depends on your willingness to be adventurous and available for the novel.

Final Thoughts…

Emily Dickenson wrote that “forever is composed of nows” (“Forever – is Composed of Nows,” 1914). The next time you see a huge flock of blackbirds, stop and take a moment to be grateful for the now that you are in. Ask the Universe for help in accepting new things, making the most of the time, talent and treasure you have been given and thank the Divine for the reminder to reflect and self-care.

Peace and love to you…


How Your Morning Routines Make Your World a More Magical Place

Everyone has morning routines.

Even if you’re the kind who rolls out of bed, splashes water on your face, and puts on the first clothes you find before heading out the door, routines are built into that.

With just a bit of a tweak, you can turn that morning routine into a ritual that starts you off with a bit of magic, a connection to higher powers, and a great setup for the rest of your day.

What are Routines?

If you look up the word “routine” in the dictionary, you will find the following:

  1. a sequence of actions regularly followed; a fixed program;
  2. something performed as part of a regular procedure rather than for a special reason;
  3. something organized for automaticity.

In short, a routine is a set of activities you do every day, day in and day out, regardless of the day of the week or the day. You do them so often that you don’t even think about them anymore.

I love my morning routines. I complete them every day, weekdays and weekends, no matter the season. In fact, if I miss my morning routines for any reason (everyone has had their morning disrupted by a dog barfing on the rug, a baby whose diaper mysteriously fills just as you’re heading out for the day, or an alarm that gets ignored), I feel unprepared, and even cheated. Here is my typical morning routine:

  • Wake early (5:30 am at the latest) before everyone else; Wash my face;
  • Make a cup of coffee. While the coffee brews, I load stray dishes into the dishwasher and start a load of dishes;
  • Light candles and incense in my breakfast nook and get out my journaling materials;
  • Do a daily tarot pull (1-6 cards, depending on my reason for the reading) (one of my cats has usually joined me on the bench by this time);
  • Continue with whatever ongoing research I’m doing (right now, I’m studying goddesses of justice and the kether [crown] sefira);
  • Journal, make my schedule, pray and set my intentions for the day;
  • Add items to my altar to correspond with my intentions;
  • Walk my dog and talk to the sun, moon, planets, stars, and whatever wildlife greets me.
illustration of a woman journaling with her cat and tea nearby
Routines such as journaling, time with your pet, and a morning cup of tea can all become rituals if you add a bit of thought.

If it’s a work day, there are a couple of steps after this (make breakfast and lunch, say my goodbyes to whoever is still sleeping). But this is how my day starts, no matter what the date. These are my morning routines – and they are also rituals. Let me tell you why.

Why My Morning Routines ARE Rituals

When I first started on my path to the Great Spirit, I thought meditation was something only seasoned yogis do well and that rituals involved fancy incantations, moonlight escapades in the backyard (my poor neighbor…), and maybe secret potions. Then one day, I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts, Magic & Alchemy by Tamed Wild, and heard one of the co-hosts, Kristin Lisesnby, state that the best way to add ritual to your day is to look for the magic in the ordinary things that you already do. What a relief!

Let’s compare the definitions of routine and ritual and see how we can turn the first into the second:

Comparing the features of routines and rituals gives us a clue on how to turn a daily routine into a ritual experience (Image by author, 2022)

We can see that routines and rituals differ in one important way: the why. The same ordinary action, such as the first sip of your morning coffee, takes on a more metaphysical, spiritual meaning if done with purpose or intent. The intent might be increased mindfulness (e.g., feeling the warmth of the cup in your hands, smelling the aroma of the fresh brew, sipping the first sip, noting the way it feels in the mouth), or it might be your gratitude toward something greater than oneself (e.g., giving thanks for the quiet, the new day, fresh opportunities, and comfort). If you’re walking the dog because it’s what you do every night before bedtime, that might be just a routine. However, if you take the time to talk with your dog, greet the moon, look for Jupiter shining in the night sky, and feel the energy of the stars rejuvenating you, you might be engaging in a bit of ritual magic, especially if it’s the way you end your day every day. This ritual closing of the day takes on a spiritual meaning when done with intent.

The Benefits of Morning Routines and Rituals

Scientists have studied the many positive results of morning routines, including increased productivity, creating a positive context for the rest of the day, increased energy and feelings of control, decreased feelings of stress and forgetfulness, and improved relationships, confidence, and flexibility. Adding the element of intent focuses the energy of the routine into a specific area: mindfulness routines, such as making your bed, sipping tea, or writing in a journal focus that energy on connecting with your inner self (the “shadow self”), while setting the table for breakfast, filling the bird feeder or lighting incense focus that energy outward, toward others or the divine.

Turning Your Mundane into Magic

While there is always a place for that special ritual, such as lighting candles at a shrine or participating in a baptism, everyday tasks can become magical when done with a spiritual purpose. Let’s look at ways to turn your morning routines into rituals, and make your world a little more magical.

Create a table with three columns. Start by listing 5-7 tasks you do every morning without thinking about why, in the first column (maybe this is your FIRST journal page?). Next to each, write why you do it. If you don’t know, leave that blank. In the last column, think about how each could be an opportunity to connect to yourself, others, or the divine. Choose one of your routine tasks, and practice doing it with intention every day for a week, two weeks – however long it takes to feel you are now doing it with purpose. Be grateful. Be thankful. Be mindful and aware of changes in yourself, in your view of the world and of others. When you feel the magic, add another ritual to your day.

What’s Your Favorite Morning Ritual?

I’d love to know what your favorite rituals are for starting your day. Better yet, what routines did you turn into rituals, after reading this post? Drop a picture and share in the comments below.

The Complete Beginner’s Guide to Tarot Birth Cards

The English language is full of expressions that hint at the connection between the objects in the sky at birth and our journey on this Earth. We refer to things that happen to us as being “written in the stars” and to particularly fortunate people as being born under a “good star.” Two lovers who seem at odds with one another are called “star-crossed.” The celestial objects present in the sky at our birth are believed to set the course for our lives that follow.

Tarot also helps us identify the main themes that guide our lives based on birth dates. In this post, we will calculate our tarot birth cards and see how they help define us as individuals.

What is a Tarot Birth Card?

Tarot birth cards, also known as “life path cards,” describe unique character traits or qualities that are constant for us, regardless of our phase of life. Each person has one to three birth cards, depending on their birth date. These tarot birth cards correspond to one of the 22 major arcana cards in a tarot deck.

Calculating Your Birth Card(s)

First, write down your birth date in DD//MM/YYYY format to determine your tarot birth cards. For example, if you were born on October 17, 1973, you would write the following:


Next, add the digits for the whole birthdate together:

17+10+20+03 = 14

Then, since that number is less than 22, your birth card would be #14 – Temperance. You would also have a second card (1+4=5) – the Hierophant.

If your birth year was 1987, however, your total would be 17 + 10 + 19 + 01 = 47. Since this is greater than 22, you would add the two digits together, to get 11. You would have two birth cards: 11 (Justice) and 2 (1+1) (the High Priestess).

Special Cases

Three-digit totals: Imagine your birthday is November 18, 1973. Your total would be 18+11+19+71 = 119. In this case, the first two digits become one number (11), which is added to the second number (9), for a total of 20, corresponding to the Judgment card. You would also have a second card (2+0=2), the High Priestess.

A Total of 19: If your dates total 19, you will always have three birth cards: the Sun (19), the Wheel of Fortune (1+9=10), and the Magician (1+0=1).

How to Use Birth Cards

There are many ways to use birth cards in your meditative or spiritual practices. Here are just a few:

  1. Use them to gain better insight into your core personality when making decisions.
  2. Use the card as a significator, one you place on the table when creating a spread to represent yourself or the person you are reading for.
  3. Meditate on the meaning of the card as part of your daily meditation when seeking spiritual guidance.
  4. Look for these cards to pop up as representations of people during readings, and consider their position and your own situation when reading the cards.

My birth cards are the Lovers (6) and the Devil (15). At first, this alarmed me, until I saw the meanings. Lovers (or Love, depending on your deck) signifies oneness, attraction, association, and connection. When taken to the extreme, this need for connection and attraction can become attachment, dependence, temptation, and addiction (the meaning of the Devil card). For me, this describes both a need to connect and get approval, as well as a tendency to forget to keep my personal boundaries safe and maintain my own personal identity.

What are Your Birth Cards?

In the comment section (without revealing your birthdate – you don’t want to share that publicly!), tell us your birth card(s) and what they reveal about your unique character.